How to deal with people: Communication ๐Ÿ’ฌ

How to deal with people: Communication ๐Ÿ’ฌ

Hello there!

Following up on my article on how to create a more than minor side-project, another thing developers would probably like to learn is how to communicate and collaborate efficiently, so, I decided to share my thoughts with you on this as well. This is the first of two articles and feel free to leave any comments down below on your thoughts on this one!

The basics

People talking

Communication is a central skill for every developer (whether we like it or not) and we use it everywhere, with friends, family, clients, team, bosses, etc.

And as obvious as it is to say, the objective of communication is transmitting an idea. This is important to be said since sometimes communication goes into automatic mode and we just say everything that comes to our head, without spending a little time to think.

So, I decided to write this article to talk a little bit about what I consider important in communicating and I decided to do it in a list-like manner:

The important things

Starting, there are a few important things to always have in mind when communicating with someone. Every one of them have importance, but, if you just want a quick rule of thumb, always put yourself (and the things you're about to say) on the perspective of the other person. Let's start our little list with adaptation:



The idea of changing the dialogue to match the context that the other person has. Expert developers are amazing at this, since, they can translate developers' demands and ideas for the people on the business side. But that's not the unique use case! Use it with clients, taking it commonly to get their engagement, or use more technical jargons while talking with highly skilled developers. The context guides everything.

Break the shyness

Girl hiding herself

Okay, this one is important. We're all introverts on the inside and leaving our precious shell is HARD. But, the fear of communicating is REALLY important to overcome!

If you just want to talk with someone, spend some time learning what are the likes and dislikes of that person! Ask open-ended questions (the ones that can't be answered with just a YES or NO) and you'll find yourself with new friends in no time. The importance here is that friends are (as LinkedIn proposes) connections and connections can bring you opportunities.

Non-violent communication

A couple communicating

This is an amazing concept of how to communicate with other human beings. There's a whole book (written by Marshall Bertram Rosenberg creator of the concept) talking about how we can communicate better and more than that, empathetically.

This is somewhat hard to explain in just a tip article, so, I recommend you to check this video here. It's an amazing video and with just 4 minutes, it can open your eyes A LOT to the way we communicate (remember when I said that we usually just communicate on the automatic? Yeah, that can cause trouble).

Communicating Online


Okay, the tips above are good, but they can be sometimes hard to apply on some cases online. And, as we are developers, we'll probably communicate a lot more online than don't, so, the following tips are special cases perfect for the online environment.

Don't ask to ask and don't start with just a HELLO

These two are powerful. Now and then we see it happening, someone asking:

Are there any JS experts here?

These types of questions are way too vague and can even question people's abilities. The simple answer here is just to ask.

Hey! How do I do a fetch request in JS with Axios?

Now that's a much better question! Explaining more, we even reveal a shocking truth: You did not need an expert, it was just your senses talking louder than your reasoning!

There's an amazing webpage that shows the intent of the message on the idea more in-depth (it's the whole source of this tip), check it out after reading here!

Besides that one, we have: don't start with just a hello

SPECIALLY IN ONLINE ENVIRONMENTS, this one is really important. People have other things to do. If you start a conversation with:

Hey - Sent at 11:00 Hey! How are you? - Sent at 12:00 Everything's fine! Can you help me with... - Sent at 13:30

You just spent a whole 2 and a half hours just to communicate your real intent. If this conversation were like this instead, you would save a free 1 and a half hours:

Hey! Everything's good? Can you help me with.... - Sent at 11:00 Hey! Everything's good! In this problem, I would... - Sent at 12:00

There's another webpage that is the source of this, please, check it out after reading this article :D

Expressing emotions

The last tip here is (following up the guideline on non-violent communication) to show your feelings and emotions in conversations! And, sometimes, reading what emotion is being transmitted in a few strings is kind of hard.

In those cases, I present to you the old concept: One image speaks louder than 1000 words!

What does that mean? Simple, use emojis! If you think the intentions on your messages can be unclear sometimes (especially if you're into irony a lot), insert an emoji here and there! Check how these two messages have the same content, but the emoji makes the meaning of them slightly different:

"Well, that's certainly an interesting perspective." "Well, that's certainly an interesting perspective. ๐Ÿค”"

The above one can sound kind of harsh if you're reading it on a bad day, while, the other one, can sound just questioning (as the intent of the message was designed!). Always remember, we're all humans, we all have bad days, so, don't leave a lot of margin for the imagination of others to fill the content of your message.

Thanks a lot for reading! If you enjoyed or want to add something to the post, feel free to let you comment below!